It’s the new year. That means Everyone is about to hit the gym, clean out their closets, or start setting some sort of goal for the next year. Resolution Season has begun.
This year, I aspire to be the best version of myself that I can be. I have had ups and downs, I have had highs and lows, I have had triumphs and failures. But I know that I am capable of SO MUCH MORE than I could ever imagine. Here’s to a NEW YEAR, A STRONGER ME, AND A NEW PATH TO SUCCESS.
There it is. Sweet and simple.
What does my resolution have that is different than almost Everyone else’s?
Well, to start, it’s not very specific. It is actually quite broad and vague. I created it this way because for one specific reason: I want room to make it grow.
My initial goal for this year is to be My best. To do this, I am going to train harder, eat cleaner, and find a better peace of mind through mindfulness, spiritual, and patience work. Now, That’s more specific!
Every year I set a goal, may it be big or small, that is Very specific. For example, some of my past resolutions have been to read 12 books in 12 months, lose 20 pounds, and do my devotions Every day. The only problem was, I had set myself up for failure. I was so fixated on those goals in the very beginning of the year that I was not even looking forward to the rest of the year!
I was loathing the gym and doing my meal prep because I wasn’t seeing immediate results, I would freak out if I wasn’t on “pace” to finish a book within the month, knowing I would have to catch up next month and take time from the next book, and I would get so upset with myself if I missed ONE day of devotions due to something substantially more urgent. I was beating myself up rather than “high-five-ing” my success.
This year is going to be different. Every step towards my overall goal is going to be treated as a success. Every page read in a book, every morning of devotional work while drinking my bulletproof coffee, and every bicep curl is going to get a huge “you go girl!” …internally, I won’t be shouting it out at the gym – that would just cause too much attention. But you GET IT!
It’s about the small victories in Every day life that matter the most. If you go the whole day without a mini victory it can be overwhelming to look into the future and at all of the things you have yet to do. You will most likely make yourself believe that you will fail in all of those things too.
Do me a favor today. Just for today, try to START your day with a mini victory. The easiest thing that I have had my clients do to make sure then start off the day on the right foot is to MAKE THEIR BED! I know, it sounds so simple. But it WORKS!
When most people get up in the morning, it goes something like this:
You get out of bed, drag yourself to the kitchen or bathroom; stubbing your toe on a stray kids toy or misplaced household item. You have breakfast which is burnt because a kid or pet just broke Something in the other room. Time to go to work; your boss reprimands you for missing another crucial deadline. You have to leave work late due to the new deadline that cannot be missed. You miss the family or personal event that you really wanted to attend, apologizing to your mom/friend/significant other on the phone and it turns into a spat. In the late evening you have to make your own dinner, since you missed your original planned event. You run some late-night errands remembering that you had to pick up an item for a friends get-together for the next day, which you might have to miss because that boss is still unhappy with your performance. Finally it’s time for bed.
You take a shower, brush your teeth, and slowly make your way to the bedroom. You look at the bed; it looks like you Just got out of it two seconds ago! It looks used and sloppy; the pillows are still indented from last night, the comforter is on the floor, the sheet is twisted 45* from where it should be. You think, “Of course, after a day like this, my bed must be upset with me too.”
After get into bed, too exhausted to worry about making it perfect, you are tired and finally ready to go to bed.
What if you had made your bed, first thing, that morning?:
When you get up, you stretch and pull the comforter off of the floor. You untwist the sheets and tuck them in nicely. You fluff the pillows and heck, you even throw on the pretty “show” pillows for fun. On the way to the bathroom you are more energized than usual – it must have been that extra movement of making the bed, right? You notice something on the floor (since your eyes are Wide open rather than barely visible like usual), you move the item back to where it belongs and go about your day.
Even if that stubbed toe was All that was changed from the original non-bed-making day, let’s see how your day would turn out:
You have breakfast which is burnt because a kid or pet just broke Something in the other room. Time to go to work; your boss reprimands you for missing another crucial deadline. You have to leave work late due to the new deadline that cannot be missed. You miss the family or personal event that you really wanted to attend, apologizing to your mom/friend/significant other on the phone and it turns into a spat. In the late evening you have to make your own dinner, since you missed your original planned event. You run some late-night errands remembering that you had to pick up an item for a friends get-together for the next day, which you might have to miss because that boss is still unhappy with your performance. Finally it’s time for bed.
You walk into your bedroom. Your bed is perfect. The comforter is flat and inviting, your pillows are puffed up and the sheets are at that perfect tightness where you feel enveloped in a big hug. A big smile forms on your face as you smell the clean, chilly sheets. It’s time for bed and you are sleeping as you hit the pillow.
Would that not be the Best thing Ever! After a terrible day where nothing went right, your bed was already made and ready for you to go to bed. You can now go to sleep knowing that you had a mini victory. Was it SO worth the extra two minutes after the alarm buzzed? I think, YES!
Okay, so your homework: MAKE YOUR BED! Just try it every day for a week and see if you feel any difference at the end of the day. Do you feel that mini victory? If you have a bad day, does it bring a smile to your face knowing that you will be ready for bed the moment you hit the bedroom? If you have a great day, is it not the icing on top of the cake climbing into that perfectly made bed?
I choose to create the best version of myself this year. This resolution will start with Making My Bed.