Consistency

I am currently eleven weeks out from my second figure competition. How do I feel? Well, here’s some of the thoughts I have daily:

I want to quit.

I want to win.

I don’t care if I win.

I won’t be able to make the changes I need.

I am way more on track this year than I was at this time last year.

What if I give up? Who would notice?

Is this worth my time? Efforts? Stress?

I should dedicate this time to something more productive.

I want to sit on the lazyboy and watch tv all day today.

I should’ve worked out harder, I know I had more in me.

I’m working out too much!

I need to eat more.

I need to eat less.

I am so excited to get on stage.

Oh God, I have to get back on stage!

I am so excited to workout today!

I no longer enjoy cardio.

I am pumped about these gains!

So, you ask, how am I feeling?

The answer is: inconsistent.

I posted an Instagram story this morning talking about consistency. Sometimes I believe that I am a very inconsistent individual. Then I have days where I see how my consistency and dedication has formed massive results over time.

I have found that I am consistent on the outside, but very inconsistent on the inside. This is due to my internal dialogue, which changes every minute of every day, as you read above.

I know I am on the right track, so even if I want to quit, I know that I will not. But it’s hard. It is difficult to stick with something when you don’t see the changes right away.

Instant gratification is glorious, but it isn’t realistic all the time. And when you get it, sometimes it passes by and disappears, like it never happened in the first place.

What are You struggling with? Are you having the internal struggle about something in your life? I would love to hear and maybe even help you through the process!

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Is Self-Sabotage Holding You Back?

I have called myself a saboteur many times, but at one point, I did not know what that meant, nor what type of saboteur I was.

Self-sabotage is basically when you do something to prevent yourself from accomplishing your goals, prevent the progressing in a task, or when you create lifestyle blockers or problems. This can be conscious or subconscious, as many people do not even realize they do this. Some simple forms of self-sabotage are procrastination and eating “feel-good” foods. However, self-sabotage can take a dark turn when it progresses to eating disorders or self-harm.

My form of self-sabotage was connected to my fear of failure, or so I thought.

Failure is Scary, not just for me, but for the majority of the human race. The fear of failure can prevent you from doing something you desperately want to do because you believe that something terrible will come of it. It can hold you back. It can cause you to get “stuck.” I truly enjoy working with people who feel “stuck,” hence, why I started researching self-sabotage and the fear of failure.

Getting stuck was something that I was doing a lot some years ago and I feel as though I can relate to people who feel like they can’t move forward but can’t turn back to their previous “life” or ways. I was the same way. I wanted change but I didn’t know how to start. I wanted to progress and achieve, I wanted many things, but my fear of failure was holding me back.

Flash forward a few years and I have come to see that my so-called “fear of failure” / self-sabotage was actually more related to a Fear of Success!

The Fear of Failure Vs. The Fear of Success.

Well, that didn’t make sense to me. Why would I be fearful of succeeding in life? Why would Anyone be fearful of being successful? When you’re successful you can live your life how you want, you can do and see more, and spend more time with friends and family, right? (Well, I guess that depends on how you define success.)

There have actually been studies done, defining what the difference is, because it’s a huge difference! However, many times the fear of failure is just a more commonly known term, when in reality, the individual is fearful of success. The fear of success is just hidden beneath the surface. You have to dig deep to determine which fear you actually have.

The fear of failure has a scientific term: “atychiphobia.” This occurs when someone is so terrified of failing, making a fool of themselves, or causing discomfort that they stop all action. They decide, either consciously or subconsciously, that they will no longer move forward out of this fear. Usually this is fearful because they actually think they Will fail.

The fear of success also has a scientific term: “achievemephobia.” (Who knew that these were legit phobias with science-y names?! I sure didn’t!) This is more prominent in people who believe they Could succeed and the fear is that they don’t know what it would lead to.

For example, I am terrified to start running with my virtual health coaching business. I REALLY want to because I am confident in my abilities and the fact that I can help people immensely with these abilities. I am good at what I do. However, I am fearful for So many reasons: I don’t know who would listen to me or if anything I have to say would be worth it to anyone but me. I am scared that I might get so successful that I would have to ask for help (I don’t like to do this). I might eventually have to leave my current full-time job (I love my day job because of the amazing clients I interact with every day). And a Big one for me: maybe I will offend people if I succeed?

I know, I know, you’re thinking: “Laura, why are you scared of this? No one would be anything but happy for your success.”

Achievemephobia, my self-sabotage, my fear of success.

I have been trying and will continue to try harder.

Diving into personal development books, podcasts, and videos over the last few years has helped me immensely with this fear of mine, and I continue to work on this daily. So, the original reason for this blog post: I am no longer going to fear success.

I have decided that I have to stop fearing the future and start Living it. I took a huge step this week and applied for a business scholarship with Marie Forleo’s B-School. This scholarship program awards a handful of individuals each year and I hope to be one of them.

Instead of keeping this a secret (just in case I fail and am not chosen) and avoiding telling anyone (just in case I succeed and am chosen) – see this works both ways – I have decided to tell the world. I am no longer going to participate in self-sabotage, I am really going to try. The announcement of the scholarship winners is on the 22nd of February. If I am chosen or not, I will announce the results. This is something I desperately want and my fear of success has been in my way for far too long. I want to build a business for myself and I am going to start today.

Who’s with me?

Hydration Station

It’s 10:30am and I have gone to the  bathroom probably six or seven times. Whoa.

I am currently going through prep to prepare for a tentative second bodybuilding show in May – still up in the air, I will let you know when I make my final decision. Anyways, during prep, I aim to drink at least a gallon of water a day AND I am up at 4:30am for my cardio workout every day except Sundays. This means I have to pee a lot from all of the water, plus I am up early giving me more time to pee? Lol!

With all that being said, the workers at Starbucks are starting to give me weird looks as I get up every 45-60 minutes to go to the bathroom…I swear, I just need to pee! Hahah!

That’s all. Stay hydrated my friends!

 

Making My Bed

It’s the new year. That means Everyone is about to hit the gym, clean out their closets, or start setting some sort of goal for the next year. Resolution Season has begun.

My resolution:

This year, I aspire to be the best version of myself that I can be. I have had ups and downs, I have had highs and lows, I have had triumphs and failures. But I know that I am capable of SO MUCH MORE than I could ever imagine. Here’s to a NEW YEAR, A STRONGER ME, AND A NEW PATH TO SUCCESS.

There it is. Sweet and simple.

What does my resolution have that is different than almost Everyone else’s?

Well, to start, it’s not very specific. It is actually quite broad and vague. I created it this way because for one specific reason: I want room to make it grow.

My initial goal for this year is to be My best. To do this, I am going to train harder, eat cleaner, and find a better peace of mind through mindfulness, spiritual, and patience work. Now, That’s more specific!

Every year I set a goal, may it be big or small, that is Very specific. For example, some of my past resolutions have been to read 12 books in 12 months, lose 20 pounds, and do my devotions Every day. The only problem was, I had set myself up for failure. I was so fixated on those goals in the very beginning of the year that I was not even looking forward to the rest of the year!

I was loathing the gym and doing my meal prep because I wasn’t seeing immediate results, I would freak out if I wasn’t on “pace” to finish a book within the month, knowing I would have to catch up next month and take time from the next book, and I would get so upset with myself if I missed ONE day of devotions due to something substantially more urgent. I was beating myself up rather than “high-five-ing” my success.

This year is going to be different. Every step towards my overall goal is going to be treated as a success. Every page read in a book, every morning of devotional work while drinking my bulletproof coffee, and every bicep curl is going to get a huge “you go girl!” …internally, I won’t be shouting it out at the gym – that would just cause too much attention. But you GET IT!

It’s about the small victories in Every day life that matter the most. If you go the whole day without a mini victory it can be overwhelming to look into the future and at all of the things you have yet to do. You will most likely make yourself believe that you will fail in all of those things too.

Do me a favor today. Just for today, try to START your day with a mini victory. The easiest thing that I have had my clients do to make sure then start off the day on the right foot is to MAKE THEIR BED! I know, it sounds so simple. But it WORKS!

When most people get up in the morning, it goes something like this:

You get out of bed, drag yourself to the kitchen or bathroom; stubbing your toe on a stray kids toy or misplaced household item. You have breakfast which is burnt because a kid or pet just broke Something in the other room. Time to go to work; your boss reprimands you for missing another crucial deadline. You have to leave work late due to the new deadline that cannot be missed. You miss the family or personal event that you really wanted to attend, apologizing to your mom/friend/significant other on the phone and it turns into a spat. In the late evening you have to make your own dinner, since you missed your original planned event. You run some late-night errands remembering that you had to pick up an item for a friends get-together for the next day, which you might have to miss because that boss is still unhappy with your performance. Finally it’s time for bed.

You take a shower, brush your teeth, and slowly make your way to the bedroom. You look at the bed; it looks like you Just got out of it two seconds ago! It looks used and sloppy; the pillows are still indented from last night, the comforter is on the floor, the sheet is twisted 45* from where it should be. You think, “Of course, after a day like this, my bed must be upset with me too.”

After get into bed, too exhausted to worry about making it perfect, you are tired and finally ready to go to bed.

What if you had made your bed, first thing, that morning?:

When you get up, you stretch and pull the comforter off of the floor. You untwist the sheets and tuck them in nicely. You fluff the pillows and heck, you even throw on the pretty “show” pillows for fun. On the way to the bathroom you are more energized than usual – it must have been that extra movement of making the bed, right? You notice something on the floor (since your eyes are Wide open rather than barely visible like usual), you move the item back to where it belongs and go about your day. 

Even if that stubbed toe was All that was changed from the original non-bed-making day, let’s see how your day would turn out:

You have breakfast which is burnt because a kid or pet just broke Something in the other room. Time to go to work; your boss reprimands you for missing another crucial deadline. You have to leave work late due to the new deadline that cannot be missed. You miss the family or personal event that you really wanted to attend, apologizing to your mom/friend/significant other on the phone and it turns into a spat. In the late evening you have to make your own dinner, since you missed your original planned event. You run some late-night errands remembering that you had to pick up an item for a friends get-together for the next day, which you might have to miss because that boss is still unhappy with your performance. Finally it’s time for bed.

You walk into your bedroom. Your bed is perfect. The comforter is flat and inviting, your pillows are puffed up and the sheets are at that perfect tightness where you feel enveloped in a big hug. A big smile forms on your face as you smell the clean, chilly sheets. It’s time for bed and you are sleeping as you hit the pillow.

Would that not be the Best thing Ever! After a terrible day where nothing went right, your bed was already made and ready for you to go to bed. You can now go to sleep knowing that you had a mini victory. Was it SO worth the extra two minutes after the alarm buzzed? I think, YES!

Okay, so your homework: MAKE YOUR BED! Just try it every day for a week and see if you feel any difference at the end of the day. Do you feel that mini victory? If you have a bad day, does it bring a smile to your face knowing that you will be ready for bed the moment you hit the bedroom? If you have a great day, is it not the icing on top of the cake climbing into that perfectly made bed?

I choose to create the best version of myself this year. This resolution will start with Making My Bed.

The 90X Goal Planner

When you talk about something frequently, an interesting thing starts happening: Facebook starts showing you ads for that certain something. It has happened to me about the most random things. For example, back when it was new and exciting, one of my clients decided that she was going to go in for micro-blading. I had never heard of it so I asked more questions, all while near my phone – enter micro-blading ads Everywhere on Facebook. Has this ever happened to you?

Well, after talking to a client more recently about their goals in the upcoming year, an interesting ad came up telling me about the 90X Goal Planner. I ignored it, knowing it was a sponsored ad and that my phone probably heard me talking about goals. After all, how could that planner be Any different from the other thousands out there? Well, I kept seeing it on FB and then Instagram; now I had to look into Why this planner was “different.”

Hello, my name is Laura and I am a planner-addict.

If you didn’t know this about me, I LOVE planners, journals, and Any type of paper and/or organizing product. I have enough daily planners to last me through 2020…yeah, it’s a problem. Any time I see something pretty or a new type of planner, I usually jump onto YouTube to see what all the fuss is about. Yup, that happened with the 90X Goal Planner too.

The Facebook ad that I started seeing was actually one of the “Free, just pay shipping” ads that the traditional sales / ClickFunnel guru’s use. The planner is usually around $35 (see link in next paragraph) and I was not about to try out this planner for that much. The $10-ish shipping fee was cheap enough that I decided it would be worth it to try the planner and if I didn’t like it, oh well.

I was going to cut an excerpt from the 90X Goal Planner website, but here is the LINK for you to see for yourself. I am not an affiliate; go to the website or not, your choice. If you do not want to go to the website, here is my opinion of what this thing is: the 90X Goal Planner is basically the most simple-step planner specifically used to conquer goals, using daily, weekly, and monthly tracking tactics to make sure that you never forget about any of the specifics when it comes to your goals. Basically – a never ending to-do list that you repeat over and over again until it is completed…

…AND I LOVE IT!

I really did not think I would enjoy the process of writing and re-writing out my goals and action steps over and over again, but I was wrong. I actually really like it because it keeps me thinking about my goals ALL THE TIME! I can’t go anywhere or do anything without seeing my action steps along side my schedule.

I am currently only a week or two into the planner, so we’ll see how it turns out and see if I actually use the planner for the full 90 days. I really do think this planner could help me to conquer some big goals that I have had for a while. Believe it or not, this blog post is actually one of my action steps that I had been putting off…well, not this specific blog post, but the act of writing any blog post was the action step that I needed to take. I can check this off of my “follodo” list!!

I will update you all after I complete the 90 days. Fingers-crossed that I can keep up with it and that my goals get conquered! I know I can do it, now it’s just the follow-through!

Daily Steps of Success

As I wake up, I will…

What are your plans for success?

Do you go to sleep planning out your next day?

Do you wake up with an idea in mind?

Or do you live spontaneously?

I have tried a lot of different ways of planning out my days, weeks, months, and even years. I have come to find that there is no Right way. There is no Magical way to schedule your life for success. Because, let’s face it, Life Happens!

That’s right. Life gets in the way sometimes and you must learn how to cope with changes, unexpected emergencies, and even happy events that pop up. There are so many things that can Distract you (positive events can be distractions too!).

What are you doing to prevent anxiety, stress, and overwhelm as your life sneaks up on you?

I bet you’re thinking, I am literally doing nothing to prevent Failure in these situations…

I will be honest, that’s how I live most of the time. However, I am starting something new. I am starting to implement Daily steps to create and manage success no matter what comes my way. Do you want to learn more?

Over the next few weeks, I will be sharing my Secrets to Success! I have had people ask me how I do it, how I stay on top of my schedule, how I cope with the Many unexpected events that have snuck up on me in the last few months.

Well, now I am going to tell you!

All you have to do to learn these Steps of Success is to follow this LINK or click on the “Contact Laura” button above and go to Newsletter. Put your email into the box, click submit, and You will be sent the secrets Directly to your email to read at your leisure! Perfect!

If you know of anyone else who Should be following along with this series. Please go to that same LINK, copy and paste the URL, and send it to friends and family! OR you can simply forward them this blog post and they can access the link directly.

I would love your support!

Keep an eye out for Secret #1 in your inbox this Saturday!

Oh, and don’t forget to follow along on Instagram! I will be using the Hashtag #LJLDaily throughout this series and I would love for you to join me.

Until next time.

TRX Power Workout Video

I love using the TRX in my workouts! I used to take two TRX classes per week – now I teach them. This quick video shows some great exercises to use with the TRX:

 

 

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GNC ProBox Opening

I LOVE getting things in the mail; I absolutely love tearing into a box and finding out what’s inside. That’s why I signed up for the GNC ProBox:

 

No, I am not sponsored by GNC. This is just my unpacking, haha!

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New Personal Record (PR) in Deadlift

This past weekend I was able to achieve a new personal record for Deadlift! I had most recently been able to deadlift 235 lbs. I did this back in the summer of 2017 and again in December 2017 without the ability to increase my weight. January came around, a new workout routine and nutrition plan were put into effect and I surprised myself TWICE! I was able to increase my deadlift to 238 lbs and then AGAIN in the same routine to 243 lbs! A small change in fitness and nutrition has given me HUGE results! I am so excited to see how I progress through the rest of my 12 week challenge! Check it out:

Happiness Is a Choice.

-Laura